This seems to be a life long struggle to remember that my validity, my value, my self worth is directly proportional, inherent, and self evident to my existence.
Why do I keep falling for the trap of believing other people’s criticism of me, when my logical mind knows that “what other people think of me is none of my business?” I suppose the intensity of the emotional hook just speaks to the strength of emotional trauma attached to these behaviors and beliefs, and there in lies my work.
It also depends on who is in our environment. I found that once I can figure out whether the emotional trigger is a valid reminder that I need to work on integrating something, or whether I need to defend myself, then I feel more in control. Sometimes I change the way I react, sometimes I know to remove people, other times I say less...
“we’re really just trying to prove our validity.”
This seems to be a life long struggle to remember that my validity, my value, my self worth is directly proportional, inherent, and self evident to my existence.
Why do I keep falling for the trap of believing other people’s criticism of me, when my logical mind knows that “what other people think of me is none of my business?” I suppose the intensity of the emotional hook just speaks to the strength of emotional trauma attached to these behaviors and beliefs, and there in lies my work.
It also depends on who is in our environment. I found that once I can figure out whether the emotional trigger is a valid reminder that I need to work on integrating something, or whether I need to defend myself, then I feel more in control. Sometimes I change the way I react, sometimes I know to remove people, other times I say less...